The wife should first try not to jump to conclusions. Just because her husband was caught with a man doesn't necessarily mean there is a romantic or sexual relationship. It could be a platonic friendship that was misconstrued. However, if it does seem to be more than that, she needs to decide if she can accept this new aspect of her husband's life. If not, she may need to consider separation or divorce, but this is a very difficult decision that should be made after much thought and communication.
There could be a story where a man, who was married to a woman, had been secretly gay all along. His family and friends were completely unaware. One day, his wife came home early from work and found him with his male partner. This revelation not only affects the marriage but also their social circle. The husband would need to deal with coming out, dealing with the end of his marriage, and facing the reactions of his family and friends who may have different views on homosexuality.
You could start by simply stating the truth. If it was for a fun event like a costume party, just say that. For example, 'We were getting ready for a costume party and this was our creative take on it.'
The reactions could be quite diverse. Some might be shocked at first. For example, friends or family members who see your husband dressed as a woman might initially be taken aback. But if it's done in a fun, non - offensive way, they could end up finding it hilarious. Maybe they would laugh and join in on the joke.
One way to cope is to give yourself time to feel all the emotions. Don't suppress them. Cry if you need to, shout if that helps. Another thing is to write down your thoughts and feelings in a journal. It can be a way to process what has happened. And don't isolate yourself. Spend time with people who love and support you.
Some common signs include sudden changes in her schedule. For example, if she starts staying out late more often without a good reason. Another sign could be being overly secretive with her phone, like always taking it with her even to the bathroom. Also, a change in her appearance, such as dressing more provocatively all of a sudden, might be a sign.
First, try to stay calm. It's a huge shock, but reacting impulsively might make things worse. You could have an open and honest conversation with your husband. Ask him about his feelings and what this means for your relationship. Maybe he has been struggling with his sexuality and was afraid to tell you.
Forgiving him depends on a lot of factors. If he is truly remorseful and willing to work on the relationship, it might be possible. But it won't be easy and will take time.