I began to wonder about the same thing. Would my parents kick me out if I had a child out of wed lock? Not that I could but if by some slim possibility I did get pregnant prior to marriage what would they think?
"So what happened to Kane? I am sure it did not end well for him to pick the girl and not his family." Rebecca asked, pulling me from my thoughts. It must be horrible to make a choice and have it blow up in your face. What if his family decided to let him be abandoned? He would lose any support he had.
This was why while so many of us in our circle thought differently than our parents or ancestors, we could not afford to go against the grain. Losing your name meant losing many avenues of support. People would not want to anger your family or be seen as defiant against their wishes by extending a helping hand.
It is precisely why Dean and I have to tread lightly with our relationship. Even though it is just beginning and no where near marriage yet, we have to think several steps ahead as our parents could very easily cut us off.
This was one of the reasons why I value building my own connections aside from my parents and why I care about putting a good image in the press and doing things that 'old money' folks may not consider valuable.
I know my parents love for me runs deep but by becoming dependent on what my name brings me, I create openings for if I fail or take a misstep, I crash harder. Thats the thing with those of us who have had money for years, we don't want to let that go or be the one to have made it go away. In this day and age when you can have people love you and then hate you in a snap, you tread carefully.
"It was awful, my in-laws were keen on letting him fend for himself but my husband advocated on his behalf. He told them it was not fair to teach him to take responsibility for his actions and then throw that back into his face when he does. He got a girl pregnant and needed to take responsibility. Since she lied they should reconsider their offer since the conditions changed."
She sighed heavily and even nodded her head in a disapproving manner as though she was reliving the conversation all over again.
"He is now back at home and is planning to take a break from work for a while. He wants to rebuild the relationship with his parents during that time but damn, it was a war zone for a while. He has his work cut out for him." She tutted at the end thinking of the long journey ahead of him.
Noemi would know just how strict her in laws were. I remember as though it happened yesterday.
We spent hours upon hours debriefing on what happened the days they would meet and offered suggestions for Noemi to be approved by her husbands family. They did not initially approve of her due to her personality type and sense of style. Both herself and her husband did not seem like one another's type. She was so free spirited while he was more shy and reserved.
But they balanced each other out which made them a really solid couple. So when she was introduced formally, his parents were not sure what to make of her. They really liked her background as her family is very wealthy and has been so for generations but she did not match them like they had hoped. She is not conservative by any means but she managed to charm them in her own way.
She does tone down a bit when with them while they tolerate her style and spirit as much as they can. They are flexible with one another and have learned to respect one another for the sake of their shared love.
"So yeah, that is why I have been MIA for a bit. It has been strained trying to not step on anyones toes while keeping the peace. It has also thrown a monkey wrench in our plans. See Henry and I are planning to try for a baby."
She had paused for dramatic effect and oh drama did she receive. I started choking on my food while Rebecca started coughing up her wine. "WHAT!"
She was the last one I expected to get pregnant with a baby right now. She always comments on enjoying ones youth. So her news came as a big surprise. "Oh my gosh I am so happy for you guys!"
"Thank you, thank you! Wow it feels so surreal to tell someone. Henry and I were planning to tell our parents but with what happened to Kane it did not feel like the right time. But yes no baby yet but maybe soon."
Rebecca who had finally stopped coughing instead started crying and clapping her hands together. Clearly feeling like a proud mother. Between her sobs she managed to sputter out, "I am so happy! But why now of all times? I thought you wanted to reach your dirty thirty before even thinking of a baby."
That was true. All throughout high school Noemi vowed that between the three of us, she will be the last one to have a child claiming no mans dick was good enough to sway her to settle down before then.
"Hahahaha you are not wrong sister. That was the plan but Henry is a little older than I am and for a few nights I had dreams of him holding our baby and us being a small family. The longer I wait the older he gets and he won't be a fit as he is now for a baby. Besides, I got to enjoy my life so fully and having a baby for me feels like another adventure. My perspective changed, so I told Henry and we got cracking."
Of course it would not be Noemi if she was not bold in her words.
"I am just leaving it up to fate for now but I feel ready." Looking at the growth my friends have made of the past few years made me realize just how much time has passed between us. We were no longer in kindergarten making arts and crafts or in college stressing over finals.
We were here drinking wine and eating good food while we bond over our next steps together.
my apologies for the missed chapters and late uploads! I have been sick and bedridden for a while but I am thankfully much better! I will try to upload the missed content in addition to new content. Happy Holidays everyone!