Wasn't it funny that when she'd already accepted that she could never be with any man, resigning herself to be single forever, someone showed up and threw a wrench into her plans?
She wasn't even interested in dating at all. Because of the teachings her 'mother' had imposed on her since she was young and with her nasty rift with Feng Tianhua, the empress believed that those men who are intimidated by smart, successful, independent women are weak-assed men who won't value her time and attention.
While most women see themselves as damsels in distress, men look at the mirror and see the reflection of a knight in sleek, shining armor. There was no one to blame in the patriarchal society.
Men don't like strong, independent women because their roles won't come to life if there's no princess to be saved. Their ego won't grow, nor will their balls. Hence, men need women — or better yet girls, to have someone to mollycoddle.