There was a reason why my family members respected and followed my grandma's arrangement. It was because she was the strongest in the family and also because she was the only connection to the main Hill family in the central capital. My grandma had her own story and struggles before she became my grandma.
When my grandma was 21 years old and just completed her college education the main Hill family had engaged her to a renowned card creationist to recruit him into the family without my grandma's knowledge and agreement. When my grandma learned of her arranged marriage she resisted it until the family's words turned into sticks, sticks into stones.