One way to use 'I can use my words' in social stories is by creating scenarios. Let's say you're writing a story about a child at school. 'I can use my words to ask for help. If I don't understand the math problem, I can say to the teacher, 'I'm having trouble with this problem. Can you help me?' It emphasizes the positive behavior of using words instead of getting frustrated or acting out.
Well, you can start by learning from the examples in social stories. Notice how the characters in those stories communicate their feelings in a proper way. Try to imitate them. When you're in a situation that might make you want to scream, think about the words you could use. It could be as simple as saying 'I'm frustrated' instead of screaming. And always remind yourself that using words is a more effective and civilized way to interact with others.
Pretty much anyone can use social stories. They can be helpful for kids with special needs, but also for adults looking to better understand social situations.
I wouldn't recommend it. Swearing can make your novel seem less sophisticated and might limit its appeal to certain audiences. Focus on finding more creative ways to express emotions and intensity.
Share your positive expectations. For example, 'I can't wait to see where this relationship goes. I have a feeling we're going to create some amazing memories together.' It gives a sense of optimism. Also, use words to describe the good qualities you see in your date. 'You are so intelligent and creative. I love having conversations with you where I learn new things all the time.'