The experiences of women who love to give blow jobs can range from feeling a deep connection and closeness to simply having fun and exploring their sexuality. It often depends on the context and their own mindset at the time.
Rather than focusing on such explicit content, we can look at how historical romance novels depict love and passion in a more general and tasteful sense. For example, the way characters communicate their feelings through letters or glances in a historical context.
This is a very serious and complex situation. First, you need to have an honest conversation with your wife to understand her reasons and her attitude towards your relationship. If she doesn't respect your marriage, you may need to consider whether this marriage is still worth maintaining. As for your friends, they have seriously violated the boundaries of friendship. You may choose to cut off relations with them completely.
Many older gay men have inspiring stories. Some have overcome great hardships in their lives. For instance, an older man might have been rejected by his family when he came out. But instead of giving up, he built his own family of friends within the gay community. He became a mentor to younger gay men, sharing his wisdom on how to deal with life's challenges while being true to oneself.
One story could be about an older man who finally came out as gay later in life. He might have spent decades in a heterosexual marriage, feeling unfulfilled. After coming out, he found a community that accepted him and was able to explore his true self. He started going to gay pride events and met a partner who understood his journey.
Educate others as well. If someone starts to talk about such inappropriate stories, firmly tell them that this is not acceptable behavior. For example, in a group chat, if this kind of topic comes up, you can say 'This is not appropriate for us to discuss, let's change the topic to something positive.'