My wife is addicted to buying romance novels. How can I help her manage this addiction without making her unhappy?

You could try to limit your reading time. Set a specific amount of time each day for reading romance novels, like an hour. Then gradually reduce it over time.

One option is to introduce her to other hobbies or activities. For example, you could encourage her to join a local book club where she can borrow romance novels instead of buying them all. You can also plan more outdoor activities together like hiking or picnicking to shift her focus a bit from buying books.

Encourage her to join a book club. In a book club, she can discuss books with others, which may expand her reading interests and also limit the time she spends only on romance novels.

First, make sure you have a really strong and open relationship. Then, choose a very private and relaxed time to talk. Start by saying you have some 'unusual' thoughts you want to share. But be aware, this is a very sensitive topic and she may still be uncomfortable no matter how you approach it.

You can start by getting her a subscription to a mystery magazine or buying her mystery novels as gifts. For example, you could get her the latest Agatha Christie collection.

You could offer to be a sounding board. Let her tell you the ideas she has for the stories, and give her feedback on whether the plot makes sense or if there are any holes in it.

Tell her the truth right away. For instance, if you were trying to put it away as a surprise and things went wrong, say that. Simple and straightforward explanations are often the best.

The wife could write him a letter expressing her desires. It allows her to carefully choose her words and he can read it at his own pace. In the letter, she can mention specific things she enjoys or ideas she has, like trying new things in the bedroom. This way, it's more private and he can think about it before they talk in person.

You could buy her some new romance novels as a surprise. Maybe visit a local bookstore together and let her pick out some titles she's been wanting to read.

You need to make a schedule. Prioritize your work tasks and then find slots where you can fit in helping your mother - in - law. Maybe you can help her on weekends or in the evenings after work.