Mismatched expectations can turn a date into a funny worst one. Say you think it's a casual coffee date but the other person shows up in a tuxedo thinking it's a super formal event. Or if one person is looking for a serious relationship and the other just wants to have fun and doesn't make that clear. And of course, bad table manners, like chewing with their mouth open or talking with food in their mouth, can be a real turn - off.
One element is bad communication. For example, if someone just rambles on about themselves non - stop without listening to you at all. Another is inappropriate behavior like showing up drunk or being overly touchy - feely when it's not welcome. Also, having really odd hobbies that they force on you during the date can make it a horrible experience.
I had an online date where the person's profile picture was clearly from 10 years ago and much more flattering. When we met in person, he was unrecognizable. He also had a really bad attitude and criticized everything from my appearance to my choice of restaurant. It was a total disaster.
One common element is bad communication. Like in my date where the person just grunted in response to my questions. Another is rudeness. I've heard of dates where one person was rude to the other or to the staff at the place. And then there's the lack of consideration, like showing up late without a good reason.
I went on a date with a girl who brought her dog along without telling me. And the dog was not well - behaved at all. It jumped on me, knocked over my drink, and she just laughed it off like it was no big deal. I was covered in soda and not very happy about it.
Well, once I went on a date to a really fancy restaurant. The guy spent the whole time talking on his phone about work. He was so into it that he even forgot to order food for himself at first. It was just super awkward sitting there while he yapped away.
Well, once I went on a date to a fancy restaurant. The guy spent the whole time on his phone texting. He barely talked to me and when he did, it was just to complain about his job. It was so awkward and made me feel like he wasn't interested at all.
Well, there was this girl who went on a first date at a fancy restaurant. The guy she was with was constantly on his phone, texting and even taking calls during the meal. He didn't show any interest in getting to know her and she ended up leaving early, feeling really disappointed.
Maybe a date where one person talked only about themselves the whole time. For example, they rambled on about their work achievements, not even asking the other person a single question. It made the date feel like a one - sided monologue instead of a conversation. They were so self - absorbed that it completely killed the mood.
One common element is bad hygiene. For example, if the date has a bad smell or dirty clothes. Another is being rude to service staff, like arguing over the bill or being mean to the waiter. Also, self - centeredness, where the person only talks about themselves and shows no interest in their date.
A fun activity is important too. Like going to a concert or a fair. It gives the couple something to do together, breaks the ice, and makes the date less awkward. I remember a story where they went to a cooking class on their first date. They had so much fun cooking and tasting the food together.
Surprise elements can make a good second date story. For example, one person arranges a private rooftop dinner which the other didn't expect at all. It adds an element of excitement. Another element is shared interests. If on the second date they do something related to their common hobbies like going to a concert of their favorite band, it creates a strong bond.