Mom Asked Me If I Want a Blowjob: How to Respond Ethically?

This is a very inappropriate and uncomfortable situation. You should firmly and clearly tell your mom that this is an unacceptable topic. For example, you could say 'Mom, this is not an appropriate thing to ask me. I'm very uncomfortable with this conversation.'

She simply refused. She said that I should focus more on my studies rather than new dresses.

You should firmly say no if you are not comfortable with it. Your feelings and boundaries are important in a relationship. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.

If you want to handle it more gently, you could say that you don't understand what she means by that and ask her to clarify in a more family - friendly way. Like 'I'm not sure what you're asking for. Can you rephrase it in a different way?' This gives her a chance to correct herself if it was a misunderstanding on her part.

You could start by showing your appreciation for her sharing. Maybe give her a big hug and a sincere thank you. Let her know that you value her openness and the unique way she tries to connect with you.

You should firmly say no. Your privacy is important and this is not a normal or acceptable request.

I was honest and said it was a mix of good and bad. Then I explained the specific parts that were either positive or negative.

Politely decline and shift the conversation to something else. For instance, start talking about the latest family gathering or a new recipe you've tried. Say 'Aunt, let's not talk about that. I want to tell you about this great meal I had.'

This is a very inappropriate and uncomfortable situation. You should firmly tell your mom that such topics are not suitable for discussion. For example, you could say, 'Mom, this is a private and inappropriate topic, we should not talk about it.'

Others should firmly but politely tell her that such stories are not suitable for this setting. For example, they could say 'This is not an appropriate topic here.'