How to deal with a covert narcissist wife who makes up stories about what I've done?

Seek support from friends or family. They can provide an outside perspective and emotional support. It's important because living with a covert narcissist wife can be very isolating. You may also consider couple's therapy, but be aware that she may try to manipulate the situation in therapy as well. So, choose a therapist who is experienced in dealing with narcissistic personalities. Also, focus on self - care. Take time for yourself to relax and do things you enjoy to maintain your mental health.

One common experience is that she may constantly seek validation in very subtle ways. For example, she might drop hints about her achievements hoping for excessive praise. Another is that she could be very manipulative in relationships with friends and family. She might act like a victim when things don't go her way to gain sympathy and control the situation.

One of my friends always seemed so humble on the surface. But whenever we talked about achievements, she'd subtly turn the conversation back to herself. For example, if I mentioned getting a promotion at work, she'd start talking about how she once had a chance at a big project but was held back by others. It was always about her hidden 'greatness' in a way that seemed innocent at first.

Ignore them. If you don't give them the attention they seek when they tell those stories, they might stop. Narcissists often tell such stories to get admiration and if they don't get it from you, it may lose its appeal to them.

Sure. I had a friend who was a covert narcissist. He always had to be the smartest one in the group. Whenever we were discussing a topic, he'd wait until everyone else had shared their thoughts and then come in with a 'better' or more 'insightful' view. He made it seem like he was just contributing, but it was really his way of showing off his supposed intelligence.

You could offer to help her improve. For instance, you can read books about effective storytelling together and then discuss how to apply those techniques to her stories.

One common trait is excessive self - focus. Just like the wives in the stories, they are always thinking about themselves first. Another is a need for constant admiration. They can't be happy without being praised all the time.

In some cases, it might be necessary to take a break from the relationship for a while to protect your own mental health. This doesn't mean the end of the relationship, but it gives you time to think and also gives her a chance to realize the seriousness of the situation. You can also surround yourself with a support system of friends and family who can give you advice and emotional support during this difficult time.

One common way to deal with wife infidelity is through open communication. Sit down and have an honest conversation about how you both feel. Another approach could be seeking professional help like couples therapy. It provides a neutral space to address underlying issues.

If you suspect your wife is unfaithful, first, try to have an open and honest conversation with her. Don't accuse immediately but express your concerns. For example, say 'I've noticed some changes in our relationship lately and I'm worried. Can we talk?' If she admits it, then you need to decide whether you want to work on the relationship through counseling or separate. It's a tough situation, but communication is key.