Can you recommend a novel about how to deal with villains who speak ill of others behind their backs and how to plot in officialdom?

The quality of a person's character was relative. One couldn't simply use a standard to measure whether a person was good or not. Sometimes, a person might show some negative behavior, but it did not necessarily mean that their character was bad. Perhaps that person was badmouthing others behind their backs because they were dissatisfied or had other emotions. This kind of behavior might not mean that they really thought that others were bad. It was just words spoken out of some emotions and motives. Another person might think that her character was okay because she was doing what she thought was right and respecting others. She might not take the initiative to speak ill of others, but she would not support or encourage those negative behaviors. A person's character was a complicated problem that could not be judged simply by some actions or words. One needed to know more about a person's inner motives and values to make a more accurate evaluation.

😋I recommend the following two novels to you, both of which are about officialdom ~ 1. [The First Lady of Rebirth]: In her previous life, she was a special agent instructor. In her rebirth, she became the only direct descendant of King Ping. The officialdom was sinister, and she was cautious, forcing the emperor into a corner. So what if she was a woman? As long as she was willing, the world would still be in her pocket. 2. <<Tianxia Yamen>>: A modern youth transmigrated to the Ming Dynasty and used his own modern thinking to enter the Ming Dynasty officialdom. He changed the Ming Dynasty in history and gradually made the Ming Dynasty rise. I hope you like this fairy's recommendation. Muah ~😗

I recommend the book "First Smiles" to you. The protagonist faces competition and challenges in the workplace, but she deals with them with a Buddhist attitude. It's very enlightening. In addition, there were many descriptions of how to deal with people and how to speak. I hope you like this fairy's recommendation. Muah ~😗

If you find out your wife is dating others, the first step is to have an open and honest conversation with her. Try to understand her reasons. Maybe she feels neglected in the relationship. Communication is key in such a situation.

The books on how to communicate and speak with others are recommended as follows: The Analects of Confucius was a very important philosophical classic in ancient China. It contained many ideas and principles about how to deal with people and communicate with others. For example, there is a sentence in the Analects of Confucius: "The gentleman is harmonious but different. The villain is the same but not harmonious." This sentence tells us that a gentleman can respect the different opinions of others, while a villain can only pursue the same opinions as himself and cannot get along with others. Another classic worth recommending was the Tao Te Ching, which was one of the most important works of ancient Chinese Taoist philosophy. It also contained many ideas and principles on how to deal with people, communicate with others, and speak. For example, there was a saying in the Tao Te Ching: "Tao can be Tao but not Tao." This sentence tells us that some things can be expressed in words, but they don't really exist. Similarly, when interacting with others, we also need to learn to use concise and accurate language to express our thoughts and opinions to avoid misunderstandings and contradictions. These two books are worth reading. They can help you better understand how to deal with people, communicate with people, and improve your communication and coordination skills.

You could try to be more explicit. If you want them to engage with the insinuated subject, spell it out clearly instead of leaving it as just an insinuation.

This sentence came from Wang Xifeng's evaluation in 'Dream of the Red Chamber'. It expressed the contradictions and complexity of interpersonal communication. In real life, people can't avoid exposing and criticizing others in interpersonal relationships, and at the same time, they can't avoid being exposed and criticized by others. This was an era of intense competition, information explosion, and complicated interpersonal relationships. Everyone had to face all kinds of challenges and risks. Therefore, this sentence also reminds us to be humble and tolerant, not to be too demanding on ourselves and others, and to pay attention to the subtle relationships in interpersonal relationships.

When faced with a situation where your wife is flirting with others, it can be extremely distressing. It's important not to overreact immediately. Instead, start by observing her behavior more closely. Does she do it with a particular person or in a certain setting? Try to recall if there have been any recent changes in your relationship, such as increased stress or less time spent together. If it seems like a pattern, have an open and honest conversation. Share how her actions are making you feel, and listen to her side as well. It could be that she's not even aware of how her behavior is coming across, or there could be deeper issues in the relationship that need to be addressed.

I recommend 'The World's Yamen.' The author is Yi Shanjin. This book was about a white-collar worker from a modern society who traveled to the Yongle period of the Ming Dynasty and was involved in the struggle for the throne. At the same time, he was also caught up in the waves of officialdom. How did the main character manage to gain both sides of the world and play with wisdom in the officialdom of the Ming Dynasty? The book also involved the vortex of various major forces. It was very exciting. I hope you like my recommendation.😗

😋I recommend the historical novel,"The Great Wing" to you! This novel was about a destitute Jinyiwei who stepped into the officialdom of Zhengde years. He began to fight civil officials and play with military officials, and finally became a close minister of the emperor. He struggled and grew up in the contradiction between political struggle and the ambition of the world. It was a masterpiece full of drama and history. I hope you like this fairy's recommendation. Muah ~😗