Control is an unhealthy mentality that will lead to tension and conflict in relationships. To change this mindset, one needed to recognize their own problems and take positive actions to change. Here are some suggestions: 1. Be aware of your desire to control: Think carefully about your actions and find out why you want to control your husband. Was it because he felt insecure or unconfident? Or was it because he desired to control everything? Once the problem was identified, they could start to develop an action plan to change their mindset. 2. Learn to trust: Building a healthy family relationship needs to be built on the basis of mutual trust. She had to believe that her husband had his own judgment and decision-making ability. He would choose actions that were beneficial to her. Communication: Communication is the key to building a healthy relationship. Be honest with your husband and let him know your thoughts and feelings. Listen to his opinions and try to find common ground to build mutual trust and understanding. 4. Learn to be independent: Being independent is the key to becoming a strong woman. Having your own life, hobbies, and goals will make you feel confident and valuable. This way, you won't yearn to control your husband but hope that he will respect your thoughts and decisions. Ask for help: If you find that you can't solve the problem on your own or have tried but can't improve your mentality, it may be necessary to ask for help. You can talk to a psychologist or marriage counselor for professional advice and support. I hope these suggestions can help you change your control mentality and build a healthy family relationship.